Same sex Attraction

With a topic that can be so controversial, I couldn’t find a way that I wanted to write about it.  While preparing to write about this topic I had a lot of questions and a lot of things I did not understand about same sex attraction. Are people born with same-sex attraction? Is it a choice? Are there any influences that they have had in their life that led them to having it? I had a lot of questions that I needed help answered. I wanted to talk about it from all the different perspectives that research has given us, but more importantly from a perspective of what the people that have same sex attraction go through. I hope to be able to talk about it all as I go through this post. Please look past the faults of my writing             and read through the whole thing. Hopefully you will be able to realize some things as it goes on. I kind of want this post to be like my class, a survey course. Where I talk about all the different things involving same sex attraction and then in some way give new ways to view it.

            Ill be honest I don’t really know where to start or go with this, but in preparation for this post I called a close friend of mine. His name is Zane Kaelberer, Zane has openly came out and told his family and friends that he is gay. I asked him about how he felt and his experience with it all since he was little. The first question I asked him was if he believed he was born gay? Research has been done and they have not found any biological reason for those who have same sex attraction. Researchers have looked at hormones, and the brain to see if any genetics were involved in having same sex attraction. Without finding any I was a little surprised when he said he was born that way. He even looked into all the research himself but still knew he was born gay even though research showed otherwise. Now we have no idea if in the future it will show such but for now it is what we have. I guess what I really want to accomplish is to change how people view those with same sex attraction. When I spoke with Zane I asked him what he wished people knew about it. He responded with expressing mostly how much it means that his family was showing love and compassion towards him, rather than disgust and contempt. I don’t think people take the time to realize how one can grow up in a home where their whole life they are told that same sex attraction is wrong, and then have to deal with telling those same people they have it. He said dealing with same sex attraction makes you second guess everything. I mean that in second guessing who you are attracted to, but then it starts to infect every other decision in your life. It makes you constantly wonder about what other people think of you. Then you start to ask what do I think about myself which usually comes out negative. You don't feel normal. When he second guessed a big part of his life about attraction it affected all of his decisions. He said he wants people to know if you have questions then ask someone that has personal experience with it. Even if your not dealing with it, you should still ask someone who is dealing with it. It will allow you how to have the reaction the person needs.  People who come out actually take the time and think about it. Its a very personal experience.

            I wish I could fully explain more about the subject but I think I will leave it with this. We don’t really know why people have same sex attraction, but we can provide them with the love and support that they want. We can start to see that having same sex attraction is not wrong, but something that is very personal to those that have it. We need to understand what they go through and provide a way for them to feel comfortable about who they are. If we do that we will find new ways to love and new hearts for all of us.